Self love is important to a woman’s mental health, but sometimes our past or our body images keep us from loving ourselves. There are many parts of ourselves that we can be ashamed of, but here are some tips to help you feel confident and happier about who you are.
- Self Reflection–
You have to sit down with yourself and examine your flaws and all. Spend time alone. Things you don’t like about yourself and bad things in the past, write them down you will use them later. Also, think of how you act to others, how you cope with stress, people and things that take your good energy. If you think hard enough you will be able to see patterns with in your life. Use these patterns to know yourself. Make sure to list good qualities and strengths too.
All the bad things you wrote (or thought of) in the first step forgive yourself for them NOW. You can not move forward if you’re still in the past. Let it go, we’re constantly growing and changing as people. You are not that person anymore. Make sure to forgive others too and not hold a grudge. It’s easier to really love yourself if you aren’t harboring negative emotions. Just because you forgive someone doesn’t mean they have to be involved in your life.
3. Set Self Specific Goals
Once you know what you’re good at (strengths), put it to good use. Most of the strong self-loving women I know are busy people. This can come in many forms like me starting this blog. I’m a decent writer, I want to help people and this helps me feel a sense of accomplishment. Only you know yourself well enough to know what makes you feel proud. It could be a weightloss goal, going back to school, keeping your temper down, not screaming like a crazy person at your kids, or even a goal to just say yes or even no more. Meeting these goals will help you build self love in the form of admiration, accomplishment, pride and independence. Make sure to follow the next step too…
4. Treat Yourself
Treat yourself with love, kindness, loyalty and respect. Talk nicely to yourself. Self affirmations work to positively change the mind and how you interpret the world, so be your biggest cheerleader. Also this step is important because you need to treat yourself to something nice when you meet a goal. All work and no play makes me a dull girl. Usually when I write a post It’s before bedtime and a nice hot bath is my reward. But go bigger for bigger goals, for example, after I graduated college I got my hair, nails, toes done, went on a shopping spree for my adult only trip to Florida. I knew I deserved it and it make it me feel so happy. So do it for yourself, it feels good.
Sometimes it’s hard to get over the things that make you who you are today, but be thankful because without it you wouldn’t be you. The strength that you acquired is much more powerful than the circumstance. And did I mention loving yourself just makes you 100X hotter? That’s scientific.